Yeah, I believe that means he must be., I believe the definition of an immature asshole is a 40-year-old man who wont own up to his responsibility to be a father to the baby he had equal part in creating.. The Story Behind Every Song On U.S. Girls' New Album To be fair, (and Im not at all discrediting what youre saying, because it very well could be true), but no where in the letter does she mention that he did or did not use a condom. Id confirm that hes actually the father. She didnt rape him. I dont see anything wrong with his points. Also, at least here in this state, its not in any way an easy thing to get out of paying, and I think its relatively difficult to avoid paying child support unless youre essentially a transient or if the woman doesnt make much of an effort to get support. As far as your relationship with him. so we have a 8mth baby. Steve Kellmeyer Just 10 seconds in the slipstream at 175 mph.. Chuck Pelto Fuck yes, he shouldnt have a choice in that. So, Chuck, despite the fact that no one is denying the fact that there are some people out there trying to game the system, Chuck, the fact that shes pregnant is equally their responsibility. Way to break a young girl's heart. The woman accepts the ejaculate what she does with it is now her business, and her business alone. Im not saying this guy is wonderful by any means. He didnt give you another child. Sue Jones It happens, some people are incredibly fertile. Or perhaps youre a world-wise know-it-all 19 year old who heard everything you regurgitate here from your Womens Studies professor bitter after falling for the same sure I love you baby slickster line you mentioned above. It's not that bad (though I'll take an IUD's 0.6%, thanks). Male rape victims notwithstanding, men control where their sperm goes. He didn't marry you. Is it 100% fair to men or women? And I would believe him that he has no interest in her other than convenience. Crazy likes crazy. And now that theres a pregnancy and the options arent his hes furious at the woman he impregnated because it isnt going the way he wants. The only thing I can say that no one else has so far is, why would she want to trap this man?! We should use it more often. But that doesnt change the fact that these people are eating each other alive. A pregnancy, especially an unplanned one with no real relationship behind it is not a reason to stay together. April 10, 2012, 9:36 am. are you creating multiple accounts to like your own comments? Your welcome. [The feminist movement died one millisecond after the first impact. And the world goes round. Its called lying. reader, Laura1318+, writes (25 January 2008): A
And as far as that man saying that he wants nothing to do with the woman or THE BABY shame on him. If he didnt want a child he should have better protected himself. I know you have to keep the possibility in the back of your mind, but youve really been ready and willing for motherhood every time youve decided to sleep with someone? What should I do, View related questions:
6napkinburger If I got pregnant by a guy who begged me to have one, I would tell him if he doesnt want this child he can just fuck off and I will raise him/her but I will not kill my own child for him. Dee S. Advocate Well, maybe not your life, but your happiness and security do depend on it. Now, I want to believe him, but in my rightful mind I know I will be so dumb to buy all that he is say. 3 Things I Learned from Stopping All Communication After My Breakup April 9, 2012, 10:48 am. Makes me wonder if youre happily married like I am, or just a bitter divorcee who clings to feminism and man-hating as a knee jerk reaction of having been wronged. Which is not true. You can leave this dude, try to learn to live life on your own, try to show compassion toward your fellow women, and try to learn to identify unhealthy relationships straight away, before you find yourself embroiled in more soap-opera style theatrics. My ex-boyfriend had apparently broken up with a girl who was a.. You had no say in the matter.. wife pays debt sex video. His right to bang someone without protection could end badly and in this case it did. lets_be_honest And you wonder why people accuse the threads of being hostile toward males? Most women hate giving blowjobs, it seems. I accept that its the law, just like its the law that you basically have to get raped by an ultrasound device in Texas in order to get an abortion. evanscr05 But, now hes faced with the unwanted consequences of that choice, and while its unfortunate, its how life works. You know the risk youre taking when you do the deed. I think I said that about my boyfriend was I was about 15. But if she is not YOU need to decide if you can handle your boyfriend having a child with another woman. reader, iz07a+, writes (11 March 2010): A
-Exposed you to STIs by going bareback with a woman he cant stand and hes known for two minutes and then coming back to you Scummy is the wrong word to use. LW, what happens if YOU get pregnant? Oh I completely agree! I think hes an asshole for sleeping with a woman he cant stand without using a condom. Why, my God, you could have hit a chid running out in the street. But anyone who consents to sex and is then furious at their sex partner when a baby is the outcome is an idiot. April 9, 2012, 11:54 am. In my opinion, even if the baby turns out to not be his, hes already shown his true colors; and theyre pretty yellow. The point you bring up here is why I cant wrap my head around one night stands. And _JSW_, if youre reading this too, thanks for an interesting evening. Also I disagree with the logic that if you support legal abortion, then you emphatically deny that men create children. Is it fair to a kid to be born into a world where his dad abandons him? Either way, it sounds like she and this douchenugget guy are made for each other. Child support is, indeed, a lottery win for women, by which they compel men who had nothing to do with their lifestyle choices to support their lifestyle choices in the manner to which they have become accustomed. Three babies? Generally it turns into a bunch of bleeps. Funny, he only came back to you after he found out the other girl was pregnant. 5) What bothers me more than anything is the LWs attitude. I dont usually ever think letters are fake, but this one MIGHT be fake. I agree Savannah. If a guy *does not* want to be a father, he shouldnt be having sex with women unless he knows, for sure, they have a similar attitude when it comes unintended pregnancy.. This doesnt arise from the rights of the mother. If he doesnt own up to his part in creating a child, sorry, I think hes a jerk. So he had no obligation to her whatsoever. And with that said, he should confirm the woman is indeed pregnant and get a paternity test when the child is born. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Its not the mans moral fault that he didnt think he would be roped into parenthood by a singular sexual encounter when he was told she was on the Pill.. I know, right? Made my day! So while support is gender-blind, the points that get you to the question of support arent, which kind of means support isnt either. April 10, 2012, 4:50 pm. Not with hormonal BC, not with 2 methods of BC, not when one of the individuals has been sterilized. Now, the woman could want it and the dude not want it. Ill bet if LW gets pregnant, this guy is gone just about instantly. He says it's a mistake and just did it to forget me. I dont understand the level of anger sparked by this man not wanting to be physically involved in this childs life. Even SCOTUS pointed that out. While it is true he has no obligation to someone hes broken up with, he does have an obligation to not go around making babies with women he doesnt even know. He has an obligation to any future sex partner to keep himself clean. He didnt come chasing after you. Does he think hes too old to be a dad? LMAO. And he shouldnt, either. Just stay away from mens wallets. Its 100% ok if you cant or dont want to be in that situation. Putting that opinion into action with either government or private coercion is that to which we have no right. Theres many reasons besides wanting a mans money to not get an abortion. FYI first time posting but long time reader. The woman then apparently became pregnant with apparently the guys child. Why is it that she gets to have his child and not you? Everyone experiences the ups and downs of a relationship differently, and the same goes for breakups. You are arguing for NO abortion in cases of rape.. Lets start a familyyou know, if the condom doesnt work. Is the same thing going through a womans mind when she decides to have sex? These are very common questions going through a guy's mind when he finds out his ex had a baby with someone else and now wants him back. 10. Its crazy how much abject hatred there is out there. Its only when a baby is involved is when men come to their senses and then have so much things to say like I didnt mean to hurt you, I barely knew her, or the famous line I was drunk. Of course it is, but we have no way of knowing that the other woman was lying about that.
Its frustrating, but until then, there simply isnt much she can do. If a woman wanted to choose to terminate the child, would she be less of a real woman for not stepping up to the responsibility? I have a feeling you are going to stay with this guy no matter what (since you would just diiiie without him). Dont be so quick to assume every dude who makes an observation about a real phenomenon is some embittered douche full of vitriol; you may learn something in the process. haha I agree. We dont even know that this other woman told the bf that she is pregnant. Guy Friday I completely agree. April 10, 2012, 5:01 pm. He explained that they were always arguing, and that they actually broke up when he first talked to me. 1 mth after we got together, he cheated and got a girl pregnant. I came back to re-read because I was worried my reply would be disjointed and confusing (I wrote it tired last night, with a fever), so Im glad that while its not going to win any literary award, it wasnt totally nonsensical! Id like to hear your explanation as to why that should not be the case. If women insist on compelling child support from the man, then dont whine if society insists that women support the child until birth. April 10, 2012, 5:53 pm, Women have figured that game out, and it sucks. I think the hes a scum is more about not wanting anything to do with a child that he helped create and trying to brow beat this woman into having an abortion. And yes, women do use the laws to trap men into financing their lifestyle of choice (as a single mother). Having legal custody doesnt guarantee you or prevent you from paying support. Remember we are hearing all this second or third hand. Again, he has not opted out of the childs life. Maam, hes made a choice. Like raising a child is easy. Basically, he is dumping you and moving on. Like getting child support is easy. Sue Jones But I have no tolerance for the ones who cry foul after the fact when it hasnt gone their way. ago. You dont honestly believe that logic that applies to one situation should be applied to all situations, do you? Ill have mine draw up the paperwork for licensing fees. Hes a real winner. You see being nurturing as a weakness. P.S. When he got back together with her, he should have had himself tested for STDs, which hopefully he did. A douchenozzle? she may well not be at all thrilled to be pregnant and not expecting anything from this guy. reader, yelyah77+, writes (16 April 2009): A
Males who have been RAPED still have to pay child support. But, in reality it takes two to have sexual intercourse and two people to make a baby. I dont know what he told her within those two minutes but obviously it worked cause now yeah. So this guy sleeps with the first gal that catches his attention, but he only has eyes for you? Why are you so obsessed with sex? Is this a schtick or do you genuinely dislike women? female
After a breakup, Bird said, some people just need "an emotional cutoff and want to remove all evidence of their ex from their life.". And I do commend him for providing financial support. If the other woman decides to have the baby, her now boyfriend will be liable for child support, which will significantly impact his finances (and their finances if they marry for the next 18 years. April 10, 2012, 7:00 pm, If you dont want to potentially end up with a kid with a woman you cant stand, dont have sex with her.. And fools are welcome to the horror you and your ilk inflict upon them. April 9, 2012, 2:37 pm, Well, its always possible that shes NOT in her right mind. Oh, good lord. He delivered, at her request, one-half of a set of DNA blueprints.